Plastic Guide – Valentine’s Day Gift Giving

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I dislike Valentine’s Day, but not for the reasons you may think.  I don’t mind the throngs of men shuffling around the grocery store at 7pm on February 13th, on the hunt for flowers and Mylar balloons.  I can deal with the influx of young couples treating themselves to romantic dinners at all my favorite restaurants.  All of the red and pink hurts my eyes, but there are worse things in this world.

No, I don’t like Valentine’s Day for two main reasons.  One, I am ambivalent about Romance.  Two, I work in an industry driven by social occasions and holidays.  I was working with Val product in DECEMBER.  In fact, I’m nearly done with Easter.  I’ve moved on!

In the end, though, I really just hate forced romantic gestures and disingenuous (not to mention, largely useless) gift-giving.

David and I are a great fit because we both shrug our shoulders with a “meh” when it comes to Valentine’s Day, Christmas, anniversaries and even birthdays.  Before you start to think we’re a couple of sad sacks, consider this: since I have known David, he’s bought me an iPod video, Uggs (which I am wearing right now, thank you very much) and an awesome armoire for all of my clothes.  He’s come home with flowers on a Tuesday, a nice bottle of wine on a Thursday and he makes me lunches in the morning (with notes!).  On our fifth date, he gave me a single dried red rose, which he had plucked from a vase on our second date.  He took me to Mexico on a whim and he runs me bubble baths when I am cold.  And none of these gifts and gestures have occurred for any particular reason, aside from the iPod, which I believe may have been a birthday gift.  The man is not lacking in the romance department.  I am the un-romantic one in our relationship, in fact.

Therefore, my very first gift recommendation for Valentine’s Day is this; be romantic all year long.  Do kind things for your partner.  Try to make him/her happy.  Surprise with simple and thoughtful gifts, listen intently, be flexible and open.  Gifts are fabulous.  I love giving them and receiving them.  But, they don’t need to happen for a reason.

I do not, however, begrudge those who give gifts on Valentine’s Day.  Who am I to say it’s wrong?  I simply take issue with those people who only feel motivated to do something nice because of a holiday.  So, without further ado, my Val gift recommendations!

Upgrade Your Flowers

Flowers are lovely.  Roses are…..okay.  Lots of people love roses.  Many people don’t, so keep this in mind.  Ask for a bouquet featuring your partner’s favorite color, such as green/white, yellows/oranges, even red.  Look for seasonal flowers, buy local from your farmer’s market and make the arrangement yourself.

And don’t discount plants.  Depending on your audience (if your wife or girlfriend has been hinting at her desire for 2 dozen roses, I don’t recommend this idea) a plant is a lovely gift.  If my boyfriend came home with a lime tree AND planted it for me, I’d be one happy girl.  In a few years time I’d have ample limes for cocktails.  For home cooks, herbs are a great option.

Chocolate: Less Is More

Trust me on this, a single truffle that tastes beautiful will be far more appreciated than a heart shaped box of chocolate-flavored wax.  I recommend Scharffen Berger!

Polyester Is Not Sexy

Step away from the Fredricks catalog.  Do not think about buying those silk boxer shorts with hearts.  If you really want to make your man happy, buy him some slippers – it’s cold out.  Crank up the heat and get naked, he likes you best that way anyhow.  Don’t get me wrong, I really like lingerie.  I’ve done my fair share of prancing around in a garter belt and thigh-highs.  But for as much time as it takes to get into that shit, when it’s just going to come off within minutes anyhow, it’s not worth it.

Do me this favor, if you’re giving (or wearing) lingerie, opt for a chemise.  They’re sexy, comfortable, and it will be worn again.  I recommend Cosabella.  It’s not cheap, but it lasts (I’ve had some of their underwear for longer than I care to admit).  And if you’re going for classic lingerie, go for broke.  If David and I were not on a strict budget, I would definitely ask for something from Agent Provocateur’s Love collection.

Cosabella Ceylon Babydoll, $132

Photo: Agent Provocateur

Sex Toys, Porn & Booze

All go fabulously well together; the Three Lovemaking Amigos!  This might be the time to tell you that I have major issues with my libido (thanks, Prozac), but I do appreciate a good sex toy as a gift.  Early 2 Bed is a really fantastic and approachable resource for those new to buying sex toys and porn.  They have a lot of great information and recommendations.  I honestly don’t know anyone who wouldn’t appreciate a nice basket filled with vibrators, lube, porn and wine.  And if not on Valentine’s Day, then when?

If I were pulling together a basket, I would choose the following:

Ferrari-Carano 2006 Chardonnay, $22-$26

This is a chard that is well worth the splurge.  It’s one of my absolute favorites.

Mudlark Luminaire d’Amande Candles, $12-$20

I am addicted to Mudlark almond-scented candles.  Luckily, I can get them for free through work, but I highly recommend them if you enjoy almond.  They are subtle and absolutely wonderful.  The soaps are also glorious, triple-milled and delicious.  You can purchase single/double-wick or travel candles, soap or gift sets.  The product art is also totally beautiful.

Voyeur, Vol. 3: Switching Partners, $22

Obviously porn is totally personal for each person or relationship; I chose this video because it’s great for those who are new to porn (or new to sharing with a partner).  It’s fairly tame and there’s a lot of quiet storyline so there’s time to focus on one another without being too distracted.  It’s great as a nice background turn on.  And, this volume is themed around switching and adding partners, something I think a lot of couples fantasize about.

Hitachi Magic Wand, $50

Alright, full disclosure, I don’t actually own this vibrator.  But, I plan on buying in the near future.  I’ve heard nothing but great things about it, mostly thanks to Tracie (and countless commenters) at Jezebel.

Cruiser Vibrator, $18

This I do own.  And I recommend it.  That is all.

How I Adore You: Erotic Stories, $15

I don’t own this book, but I do own another by Mark Pritchard, and he’s great.  Based in SF, he explores a range of sexualities and really helps the reader to open up and experiment with his or her fantasies.

Climax H2O Lube, $16

For obvious reasons.

A Mix CD, Free

Any music that turns you on.  For me this might include Emiliana Torrini, Air, Led Zeppelin, Radiohead, Bebel Gilberto, Thievery Corporation, Feist, The Doors, EBTG, Portishead, etc etc etc…..


I prefer to stay away from restaurants on Valentine’s Day.  I’d rather order a pizza and stay in, personally.  If you do want to take your partner out, take the opportunity to try a new cuisine.  Or, you could always cook!  If you’re after recipes I recommend Lottie + Doof for everyone and 101 Cookbooks for vegetarians/vegans.

Classic Gift Giving

In the end February 14th is just like any other day, and if you want to give your partner a gift, make it personal.  If your boyfriend has been talking about new running shoes or guitar strings, why not?  It’s an ideal time to give your wife a cooking lesson if you think she might enjoy it.  A kiss, a cupcake, a foot rub…’s all appreciated.  And it’s love.

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12 Responses to “Plastic Guide – Valentine’s Day Gift Giving”

  1. Britni Says:

    Great gift ideas!

    I hate roses and think that they are cliche and totally appreciate almost any other flower EXCEPT for roses.

    I HIGHLY recommend the Hitachi. Also, couples’ rings are great for Valentine’s Day, because they’re something you can use together, as are massage oils.

    Lube wise, my only recommendation would be to make sure it’s glycerin-free! Glycerin is sugar, sugar feeds yeast, voila yeast infection! It also gets sticky and can be bad for people with sensitive skin. But almost any glycerin-free lube is a great idea.

    And the vibe you do own? Totally the first vibe I ever bought myself! Something about the pink and the sparkles that was totally not intimidating and perfect for my first foray into sex toys!

  2. pennyplastic Says:

    Weee! I am a relative newbie when it comes to sex toys. The very first vibe I bought was this teeny tiny flower looking thing I saw in an issue of Venus (I remember Kathleen Hanna was on the cover). I did buy it from E2B but it’s not there any longer. Which is fine because it kind of sucked, but it was VERY much not scary for a novice such as myself at the time :-)

  3. jdregent Says:

    Awww I was always anti-Valentine’s day but my mister loves all that cheesy shit. Actually I think it may just be an excuse for him to get me to go to a fancy restaurant my cheap ass would never agree to otherwise. But I kind of hate going to restaurants on V-day because the dinners are always pre-fixe and I feel like they really hustle you out to get in the next wave of diners. This year we have reservations at a legendary place we’ve always wanted to try but we made the reservations super early like senior citizens so we miss the crush and then can go home and be romantic. It’s the only thing that can get me through this depressing last month of winter! I am sooo counting down the days till spring!

  4. Claudia (Bluebears) Says:

    JD: we always make early reservations too. its the way to go, also you’re less likely to come home stuffed and pass out in a food coma.

    Am I the last woman on the planet without a vibrator? And do you guys like, use them “with” your partners? Or just by yourselves?

  5. pennyplastic Says:

    You’re definitely not. And I don’t even use mine that often. I’m TRYING to (like I said, major libido issues). I have used them with partners but, honestly, I feel weird doing so. I usually use it by myself.

  6. jdregent Says:

    Yes, you are the last woman. I do both alone and with partner on occasion. Just start with a cheap one so it’s not too much of an investment. Do it this valentines day!

    PS — biggest valentine’s day mistake — getting my first and last brazilian wax the day before. I was in serious pain and most definitely did NOT want to be touched!

  7. Claudia (Bluebears) Says:

    I have been rolling the idea of getting one around in my head for a while, I think I’d just do it alone. That’s when I most feel like I want to self-abuse anyway. :)

  8. SarahMC Says:

    I am so with you on the flowers. Roses are so… thoughtless.
    And the boyf and I were just discussing Vday dinner options last night. It’s such a pain, because like you said JD, they’re pre-fixed and we hate feeling like we’ve been had because it’s a “special occassion” where they can get one over on you price-wise. We’ll probably end up at Panera hahaha.

  9. bebehblog Says:

    I hate Valentine’s Day extra because it’s only three days after the husband’s birthday. He’s always in such a snit about something (working on his birthday, being old, not having enough people show up for his party, etc) that V-Day is usually spent sitting on the couch. Although he never forgets the purple roses (my favorite).

    This year he’s getting a wireless guitar for Rock Band and permission to go play poker for a few hours.

  10. Kate Says:

    A lime tree! What a great idea! Do you recommend a purchasing website?

  11. funnyface Says:

    Bluebears– you’re not the last woman on the earth without a vibrator. I don’t have one either. I’m looking to get one sometime soon, preferably one that looks absolutely nothing like a penis.

    The best gift I got for Valentine’s day was when my husband drew me a picture of our new city (BGz- the iconic Rainbow Row) and thanked me for being willing to pack up and move halfway across the country for his job. It’s still hanging on our fridge. This year, my present to him is buying and wearing some trashy lingerie I know he will love, and I made us some reservations at our favorite restaurant around the corner for all local-organic tasting dinner.

  12. jdregent Says:

    oh and totally in favor of potted plants! it’s my #1 favorite gift for any occasion!

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